Ah teens, they never fail to surprise me.

My 17 year old stepdaughter has been very troubled the last years and is now in a drug treatment program.

I blame her friends but have little to do with that as she is not my blood.

Checking through her drawer, I discovered a Walmart bag with some nice filler from a cigar and upon further examination, discovered that she had cut open one of my 2005 Opus X to roll blunts.

Guess it's better than some of my older Cubans...

I was at a loss and stapled a note explaining Phillies would be more appropriate and returned the baggie and won't mention it to her mom.
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Wow
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Well... sorry, but I'm with her, man. I'll take an Opus over a Phillies every time. :-)
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Not an appropriate forum to speak of illegal activities, but we were much more creative when I was growing up in the 80's and carrots, apples, and even toilet paper rolls were fair game for smoking apparatus. Add tin foil to anything and your science teacher would be proud.

Then again, I'm told the stuff they smoke these days is MUCH more potent.

Seriously though, the troubles many teens encounter these days are beyond my wildest imagination and having a preschooler around who IS my blood makes the challenge greater.
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Pete,
I sympathize with you.
My daughter put my wife and I through hell.
The good news is she made it out.
Now at 22 and a mom, she is all grown up.
Stay with them and try to help them out is all we can do.
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Carlos,
It's so bad, I'd be willing to also be a Grandfather to make her grow the he'll up.
She's got 3 months before she's 18 and I'm trying to emphasize how serious the consequences get at that point.
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Sorry to hear that Pete. I hope she gets the help she needs.
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Opus X... :-)
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With a family to fall back on, a child won't make them grow up any faster. Certain realities will set in, but growth has to come from within.
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Call the USMC Recruiter.

Schedule an appointment for her.

If that doesn't wake her the &^%$ up....
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well....that's one way to make an opus taste better
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Lol I love you Tobii no homo hahaha

aj
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I side with her, i'd much rather roll a phatty with an opus than a philly....
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I feel for you brother and hope that everything works out.

That said, that had to be like one of the best blunts ever! :-)
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Pete as much as it sucks right now chances are she'll get through it. I ended up in rehab for about 6 months when I was 16-17... The one thing I learned there that has helped me through life is moderation.

Family will be very necessary during this time. Hopefully everything works out for the best.

The military is actually a great idea not only because of the structure but also because it will take her to a new place to make a new start. It will get her away from her old friends and out of her old habits.
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I went through similar situations with my Ex wifes two younger sibilings. drugs, wrecks, a sexual assault, and countless more things I don't care to remember. Hanging out with the wrong crowds is the worst thing for them period. In this case it didn't help that their mom was in and out or rehab more than i've ever seen anyone in my life.

All you can do is pray and be supportive for them. One of them acctually ended up going into the army but didn't make it pass boot camp due to health issue that arose, but i'll say she has turned out better than any of them all.

My ex's brother was supposed to go into the navy, but the elistment date keeps getting stalled back for various reasons.. once was a DUI I believe. The Jury is still out on his future.
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Well at lest she is not drinking... An old friend, who was in the coastes, told me one time his friend found some pot in his sons drawer. What he did is cut small bits of rubber bands and put that in the mix. If that doesn't work I'm sorry. Also, does she know the full scope of what will happen if she gets busted???

Best of luck and PM me if you want a youngsters POV and ideas(I'm 21).
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Man, I knew I'd get some great insight here.

Great thing about it is although my wife is obviously crushed, she is backing me as far as rules and discipline go.

This girl had it rough as she arrived as a middle schooler from Brazil and was much more "developed" than the other girls and drew much attention from the boys. This caused her to be in several fights and she learned to be tough.

My older brother is a Sgt up in Jersey and spent a recent visit telling my stepdaughter all of my teen troubles which didn't help either coming from a cop who still teases me about some pretty crazy stuff.

My first reaction was to kick her out in 3 months when she is 18, but know this is the time she needs us the most.

I'll as her to use my Jose L Piedras for any further blunt rolling.:-)

On a serious note, she is looking into the military and I personally would gain a whole lot of respect for her if she chose that route opposed to the one she is headed on.
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Tell her to join the Airborne, she'll learn to REALLY "Fly"....:-)
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:-)
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