She is insanely hot. She is also a great person all around.

So...hard...to...resist.
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I've seen it maybe 10 times on my job in 28 years. 1 time it worked out, it led at least 4 to be fired or have to quit, and made for uncomfortable situations for the rest of them. I don't do it, and would advise against it if you want to stay happy and secure in your job.
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If nothing else, my father left me with a very good piece of advice... .

Never sh!t where you eat.
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Don't get your honey where you make your money
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If it goes south then it will be awkward.

That being said I dated a co-worker for 5 years, and have been married for 8 more, lucky ones I guess!
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Yah but how did it work out for her? :-)
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He has to behave, she is a better shot.
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:-)
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It's a "it depends" answer.
Hanging out, checking compatibility, etc.

I would follow by instinct if I were you. Chemistry is the thing.

Where else do you meet someone? A bar/ online??

Not necessarily any less risk these days.....
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Risk is if it doesn't work out you have to see them every day.
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Careful. She may be a dude. See hot/crazy matrix

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU
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:-):-)
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I'm on the fence, but it's only because I'm not you and I don't know where you're at in how you feel about your divorce.
Consider this...
Is it fair to foist damaged goods on someone you hope to love?

That kept me from getting involved with anyone for a solid year after my divorce, and my marriage had been over for 3 years before that.
About 5 years after my divorce, I'd worked on myself enough that I knew I could be married again and do it right. So I swore off sex and started dating. I spent a lot of time with a lot of women until I got married.
To me, that was the right way to go about it.

I see no reason why you can't see this girl out of work, as a friend.
But examine your intentions, and whether or not you can even deal with it.
Not many guys take the advice you got. But it's all good advice, and there's lots of personal experiences to back it up.
It's not about what us guys can handle, it's about what you can handle and your motivation. Just be honest with yourself and you'll be okay.
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Well put Scott!
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I've read this 6 times or more and still this statement concerns me.."We seem to connect on an emotional level, but I've always been tied up in marriage."
"tied up in anything" sounds like a negative perception with regards to relationships..
my advice.....take a year off from dating and then after 12 months if you still think you need to pursue this person then have at it...
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What Scott said. But maybe this is easier to remember: think about it with the big head and you'll make the right decision.
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To each his own, Brian. Odds are it won't work, but there's a slim chance it could. By not getting involved, nothing loss, but certainly something promising not gained. By getting involved, worst thing would be the worst thing you could imagine happening at work (see above); best thing, a great relationship starts up and a big future ahead (see above). I see it as a gamble. Given my experience and what I've seen and lived through, I would probably pass, especially if I really liked where I worked.
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Does she like photocopiers?
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+1 to this. What if this is 'the one' ? At least have the chat. If nothing else, she should feel flattered. Just keep the dialogue away from work!
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:-)

Like the way Adam thinks! :-)
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